Encounter with Denial
Denial is a form of maximum resistance, a path that is not possible to walk through. You put that barrier there to protect you. You can take it out when you're ready.
Denial is a form of maximum resistance.
I’m in denial when I have maximum resistance about something or to go somewhere.
The resistance is so big (maximum) that there’s no possible way to go that way.
Denial is a good Father because he protects you from something.
For example, denying yourself pleasures, and desires, denying your shadow, indulgences, quick fixes, denying that it’s your fault, denying the devil, denying your darkness, your violence, your avoidance, etc.
It reaches a point in the evolutive journey when the thing that is protecting you becomes the thing that imprisons you.
What you resist persists. — One of the most infallible laws of nature.
At the time of your growth and expansion, the protection from Denial doesn’t serve you anymore but it constrains you.
It’s at that moment when you will have a direct encounter with Denial.
The cool thing is that at some point in your life, you chose Denial. You chose to protect yourself from something too big for you to face at that time.
Facing Denial isn’t the prettiest of adventures.
It means being face to face with a part of you that you have been completely denying, ignoring, putting behind you, and escaping.
This would send shivers through the body to anyone who has faced Denial before or who is close to facing Denial.
You may be accustomed to the shape of your being with Denial. Facing your Denial implies an instantaneous change of your shape. Authentically facing Denial makes an irreparable crack in your box.
I was denying myself from expression, from pleasure, from wildness, from uttering of wild words, and wild moves, from having my clarity and using it.
I was in Denial about how much I care, and the consequences of caring.
I was also in Denial about how much I didn’t care about superficial, shallow, twisted relations.
I was in Denial that I was violent, that I was resenting and blaming others for the shape of the world.
I was in Denial that I was in Denial.
Another way of saying this is, I was in maximum resistance that I was in maximum resistance.
That’s a meta double lock my friend. I couldn’t go anywhere no matter how hard I tried. I was comfortable in my box tied up to the dock using Denial as my protector and I could have lived my whole life in that way, was it not for Scooby-doo and his gang of mystery solvers.
I mean, was it not for my teams, my Rage Club teammates, my Sadness Club teammates, my EHP Dojo teammates, my 3-Cell teammates.
My teammates took a stand for me in the context of Radical Responsibility and kept pointing out this big shadow behind me that I couldn’t see no matter how hard I tried or how fast I turned around.
With their help, I started noticing Denial hiding in the places where I wouldn’t dare to look for too long. They helped me by fixing my attention in certain places for long enough for me to see my pattern of avoiding, escaping, distracting, diverting, disassociating, and denying.
They helped me face Denial, they were there with me, behind me as my team, as my box cracked, as I went into the liquid state, as my being started changing shapes to something unrecognizable to my old view of myself, yet, somehow, more of myself.
There’s a different form of transformation that is possible in a team/group space that is not available when you are by yourself or even in the privacy of a therapist's couch.
This is the power of working with a team in a clear context that is committed to your growth, evolution, healing and transformation. These types of teams are rare in this world.
I believe they are the way for the emerging regenerative human cultures that have enough space, clarity and tools to face Denial and other forces that may be blocking you from growing, healing and evolving.
Have you got your team yet?
I’m looking for 5 adventurous Men to join a transformational team space called Choose to Ignite, for feeling, getting clarity, healing and taking a stand for what they care about the most.
